dns query core: detect udp truncation at recv time

dns query core: detect udp truncation at recv time

we already attempt to preclude this case by having res_send use a
sufficiently large temporary buffer even if the caller did not provide
one as large as or larger than the udp dns max of 512 bytes. however,
it's possible that the caller passed a custom-crafted query packet
using EDNS0, e.g. to get detailed DNSSEC results, with a larger udp
size allowance.

I have also seen claims that there are some broken nameservers in the
wild that do not honor the dns udp limit of 512 and send large answers
without the TC bit set, when the query was not using EDNS.

we generally don't aim to support broken nameservers, but in this case
both problems, if the latter is even real, have a common solution:
using recvmsg instead of recvfrom so we can examine the MSG_TRUNC
flag.